Caring souls have stepped up to keep offering support to bereaved parents.
The Compassionate Friends (TCF) of Vernon was at risk of folding in February if volunteers couldn’t be found to keep the group going.
Organizers are pleased to announce that TCF meetings will continue and are held on the last Thursday of the month (March 30) at 6 p.m. at the People Place in Vernon.
TCF is an international group offering support to grieving parents who have lost a child of any age or any cause.
In Vernon, the self-help group offers friendship and understanding for parents who have experienced the death of a child.
The purpose of the group is not to dwell on the grief shared in common, but for bereaved parents to help one another work through their grief and readjust to life.
Many parents have said: “When one of our children dies, no one can really understand except another parent who has experienced the same kind of loss. It is comforting to know that someone else has had the same feelings and fears. When left alone to deal with things like this you begin to wonder if there is something wrong with you or you begin to think you are going crazy.”
Physical illness goes hand in hand with emotional stress.
“Grief causes stress, and there is more stress-related illness in our society today than ever before,” TCF said. “If someone you know seems to be lost or stuck in their grief encourage them to seek help, either professionally, through TCF or other bereavement groups and give them support and encouragement when they express the desire to seek help.”
Bereaved parents must heal from the inside out, and most do if given time.
When a relative or friend says something like “cheer up,” or “life isn’t all that bad,” it contradicts the feelings of the bereaved person; to the bereaved it really is that bad or even worse. A better statement to validate their feelings would be “I know the death of your child must make you terribly sad, and you have the right to be.”
This statement does not make unrealistic demands at a time when it may be impossible for the bereaved to meet other’s expectations.
“Sure we want them to ‘cheer up,’ and ‘be happy,’ because we love them but maybe right now they just can’t do it. Give the bereaved space and time to work out their feelings.”
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